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QUOTE OF THE DAY

The world lies in the hands of those who have the courage to dream and who take the risk of living out their dreams – each according to his or her own talent.

Mrs Wind: Yang, I got an excellent idea about this new business! It’s brilliant and I know you are going to love it. It’s about yada yada yada bling bling bling gebush gebish gebush. I am so excited yang, I am so excited! What do you think?

Mr Earth: ( about 3 minutes later ). Ermmm…Good.

Mrs Wind: Whattt??!! *&*^%&(* That’s all you have to say??!! ( pout, pout, pout )

Explanation : While Mrs Wind is rambling like a mad lady she is well, practically has decided on everything she said. She doesn’t need to pause. She’s compulsive and acting on impulse is what she does best. While Mr Earth on the other hand, like to think things through. And in the span of the 3 minutes before he answered he practically has planned the whole 10 years business plan for the business.

And Mrs Wind went to ‘merajuk’ for a bit before Mr. Earth puts her back in good mood by coming up with list of things that Mrs Wind might want to come up with for the business.

Mr Earth is the husband of Mrs Wind. They have known each other for 6 years, be in a relationship for 4 years, and married for 6 months.

He is patient. He is generous. He is loving. He plays by the rules. He is a thinker. And a ‘Planner’. He is purposeful and methodical. He enjoys solving problems. He loves the computer. He is the ultimate geek. He loves the science. And teaching the science. He loves information. He’s all about the fact.

Now that is a little something about Mr Earth. And now a little something about Mrs Wind.

Mrs Wind, aka the wife, is one fun-loving lady. She loves dancing, in fact she is a Middle Eastern Dance instructor! She loves performing art, she loves the theatre, she loves watching any live performances at all. She has higher level of ’spiritual awareness’ ( according to her ). She is edgy ( both in clothing and demeanour ). She is passionate about life. She loves reading and writing. She is compulsive. She is intuitive. She is entrepreneurial.

Now that is a little something about Mr Earth and Mrs Wind, and from the little something above, most people knew that it is not going to be an easy marriage.

But then, which marriage is easy. When there’s Ying and there’s Yang. When there’s Night and there’s Day. When there’s Opposite, they Attracts!

And that’s when the fun begins

As I was having my 490,000th quarrel with my husband, I realised that I wanted to add a new category to my blog; dedicated just for the 2 of us. For our marriage.

It’s been 6  months, 5 days ago. It has been one wild ride, and a very confusing one. Much like my journey in life. I have always blogged my whole life and it helped me a lot in making sense out of everything that is happening in my life. Now that I am living my life with a partner, it makes sense to blog about it too.

I am going to call the wife ( that is me ), Mrs Wind ( and not that kind of wind ), and the hubby, Mr Earth for very obvious reasons that will be more obvious later. The nickname is inspired by a book ‘The 4 Elements of Sucess’ that I bought a few weeks ago. The book really helped me to understand myself and my husband better. Thus the start of this new blog category.

To a start of ‘Mr Earth & Mrs Wind’!

Keringat itu

Yang mengalir dari dahi ke pipi

Menitis di dagu

Adalah kasih yang melimpah ruah dari hati

Yang mekar dengan rasa cinta

Seharum wangian mawar merah jambu

Keringat itu

We went for a visit to one of our friend’s house in a pretty upscale area a few days ago. We were given pretty specific and accurate direction via SMS. Sounding something like ” Turn right, now at before traffic light turn left “.

As I read the direction dutifully to my husband, I realised I have not been looking at the surrounding, or enjoying the scenery like I used to when we were exploring new area. My eyes were so focused on getting the direction right that all I can see is the next traffic light when we were supposed to turn left.

How like life, when were given too strict a direction, we missed all the adventures and fun life has to offer.

I am all for exploring one’s journey in life. To explore all dimensions of life and our ownself. To not stick with what we knew, but rather daring to approach new and unfamiliar territories. To follow your heart, ( I am romantic like that ).

However, I also knew that there are some people who would die, really die, if were not given proper direction. Like some people have in-built navigator in their head, and insctinct that will enable them to make right decision - most of the time, while exploring the possibilities of life. There are a few who will be completely immobilised by the lack of direction. They will not budge an inch to unknown land for fear of failure. They will rather be stuck in one place than to endure going through the path that doesn’t come with a guarantee.

There’s nothing wrong with that really. People has different personalities and they will follow the route that is most suitable to their own personality. It would be really unfair to ask a person with a very traditional value to accept the way of life that is completely opposite of their values. It will make them suffer, and although the route may be fun for a hippie, it will really kill for the ‘traditionalist’ ( I have no idea whether there is such word ).

However, there were caution that need to be thrown in. Although it’s fair to expect people with a certain type of personality to behave in a certain way, it is also very limiting to think that they should not explore another side of themselves. Human being were a creature with unlimited potential and if a person, decides to not do more with themselves, it’s because they were uninformed with what great things they are able to do.

It always make my day; when out of nowhere one of my belly dancing students will come up to me and say; ” My ___ feels, better!”, ” I can feel my ____ is less painful! “, “It really helped my _______”. ( fill in the blanks with any logical positive benefits of belly dancing ).

One student came to me yesterday and said that it helped her menstruation cycle!

I am always happy that in some way, directly or indirectly, these women feel and thought that belly dancing had helped them. I am no healer, or preacher, or doctor, but I certainly approached this dance and my teaching as form of positive contribution to these women. I sure hope that the positivity and the good energy that they get from the dance will expand to all areas in their life.

After all, these are the very essence of my intention with the dance.

Today I tutored Accounting A-level to one student in his home. I am a Accounting A-level home tutor ( sometimes )

This is a challenge that I took, mostly for myself. I was a very average-to-weak Accounting students in my uni, in my college, and in my secondary school days. I struggled with the concept of having to keep track of every single numbers in t-accounts, and my soul is trapped by the rigidity and this format and that format of accounts. Very young and still not knowing myself - I wondered why am I so slow at this? Why am I not as smart and as quick as everybody else? Why am I so hating this? Should I work harder? Should I change my self? Should I change my thinking?

My mother kept saying to me, persevere. You’ll come to love ‘accounting’. And as a young child, I hope all my mother’s words are true.

The day I came to love ‘accounting’ never happened.

However, today, looking back this boy’s face - struggling to understand the concept of  ‘Contribution’, I knew why I had to suffer those long years of having to do accounting. So that I can be the teacher who’s not very smart herself; but worked very hard; and am able to make it in the end.

I am able to emphathise with him, understood his challenge, and am able to share my experience. So that he knew, he was not alone. And he too, will be able to make it one day. He told me that his teachers said that you don’t have to write down accounting notes, you just got to do lots of exercise. I told him that probably his teacher was a smart accounting student. Probably his teacher is one of those students that took one look at the question and get it all done under 5 minutes, complete with straightly double-lined correct answer. I was never that kind of student. And until today, I never was and never will be.

However, I am an accounting student (before), and an adult (now) that belief in working hard at what you want. In believing in yourself and wanting with all your heart to suceed. Because in the end, wether you are accounting or engineering or medicine student ( yeah, I am from that generation ), it’s all that matters.

Upaya

Upaya si anak kecil mengorak langkah

Angkat punggung dari rebah

Kaki mungil menapak satu demi satu

Tanpa gerun tanpa ragu

Buka matamu lihat anak kecil itu

Upaya sang rama-rama

Dari menyusur ranting hingga diam terasing

Berumah kepompong lama

Upaya sang rama-rama menujah sayap muda ingin lihat dunia

Upaya gagahkan diri melebar potensi

Indah warna menari-nari

Di laman harum bunga menanti

*

Upaya kau capai bintang tertinggi sinar gemilang

Kerna tangan mu bisa jangkau sejauh mimpi

Asal kau mahu dongak ke langit

Sabar dalam hati

Yakin dalam jiwa

Bintang itu upaya kau punyai

Upaya lah hati

Upaya lah minda

Upaya lah jiwa 

Naziehah Jul 2007 ©  

My favourite classic of all time is ‘The Secret Garden’. I read the books countless time when I was small. Even when my command of English is quite limited, let alone the grasp a Yorkshire accents that is mostly used in the text. I would read, and re-read parts that I don’t really understand, and try to come up with my own interpretations. As I grew up, the understanding grew and with time I am able to get a better perspective of the classic.

I watched the 1993 The Secret Garden movie for the first time a few days ago and I was transported to a whole new beautiful experience. I remembered my childhood time where I let my imagination take full control of how I pictured Mary lennox looks like. How Colin and his huge eyes look like. How Dicken with his round nose looks like. And of course, the beauty of the secret garden. It’s amazing watching all that portrayed in a form of moving pictures!

The movie was actually quite accurate in the portrayal of the character. Although I quite dislike the attempt to commercialise the movie with hint of budding love stories between the characters. ( can’t they just let children be children? ).

I Wikied ‘The Secret Garden’ and I was quite intrigued by what I read about the book and the author Frances Hodgson Burnett. This is what is written in it’s Major Themes.

” Major themes

The author, Frances Hodgson Burnett, was a practitioner of Christian Science due to the premature death of her son as well as personal illness.^[1] As a result, The Secret Garden espouses the benefits of New Thought and theosophy as well as ideas about the healing powers of the mind.^[2] ”

It’s that why I am so interested in Mind Power and all it’s subjects? Because I have been pretty much indulging with the concepts while I was still very young? I have not read the classic since I was 13, but while watching the movie - the concept of the power of healing mind is pretty apparent. Maybe I was not able to take the concept consciously while I was small, but did my mind actually grasped the concept unconsciously? This is what Sub-conscious Mind’ is all about.

I planned to buy a copy of my own and re-read it again. It’ll be interesting to see what my adult self would think of the book.